Praise Success, Overlook "Failure", Relax
There is no place for punishment in potty training, just as you wouldn't scold the beginning walker for tripping. Your goal is for your child to emerge from potty training with a healthy self image. Then he or she can tackle the next phase of development , sexual identity, feeling good about him or herself. Try to relax, what's one more year in diapers?
Your Pushing Too Hard
Class may have begun too early, during a negative stage, or teacher and pupil may be clashing. Consider backing off a while and take inventory of the following emotional slumps that may slow potty training. Ask your self what can be happening or not happening in your baby's life that's making him reluctant.
- Is your baby going through a negative phase in which he is not receptive to anything new?
- Is there a disturbing situation in the family, a new baby, a mayor family move, family stress, long working hours, a return to work, or an illness?
- Is your child angry? anger shuts down proper functioning of all physiologic systems, specially toileting
Take inventory of your parent child attachment. Normally, children want to please, progress, and learn control of their bodies. Im suspicious of the " well its just a normal stubborn face" defense. The problem may be deeper than the diaper. This may be your child's way of maintaining control over one are of he's or her life you can't control. If you hold the reins tightly in other areas ( choose of clothing, tidiness, choice of pass time and so on) don't be surprise if he becomes a holdout when potty training. It may also be the only way he know how to stay little for longer. This maybe time to close the lid of potty training for a few weeks or months, tune into your child, have some fun, build his self steam and strengthen you child and parent bond. Be careful not to give the message that your child's value depends upon performance. This is number one non is parenting strikeouts, whether in toilet training of in little league.
Your Child Refuses To Be Potty Trained
There babies who refuse to announce their productions, hold on to what they have, and resist any attempt to be potty trained. Late potty training like late walking, may be your child's normal developmental pattern. The nerves and muscle involved in potty training may yet be mature. Suspect this cause if your child has been on the late end of normal in the other developmental milestones. Most children are well in their way to daytime bowel and bladder training by three years. If by that time your child has not made any progress consult your baby's doctor.
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