How To Use Natural Consequences As A Potty Training Aid

There are times when you allow your child to experience the natural consequences of his actions. Peeing in his underpants feels uncomfortably wet. Pooping in his underpants makes them smell, so he'll need to change out of his favorite pants. Accidents on the floor need to be cleaned up. He still needs to wear diapers or pull ups at night until he can stay dry for a week.

Your child may not like these consequences. However, they present problem solving opportunities for your child. They are age appropriate dilemmas difficult life lessons that things don't always go the way you want them to go. These consequences are necessary for growth. One of the hardest jobs in parenting is letting your child learn from experience. Give your child the tools to over come frustration and disappointment rather than trying to avoid, or protect him from, negative consequences.



Difference Between Punishment And A Natural Consequences

There is no inherent emotional drama connected to a natural consequence, Which is why natural consequences are important teachable moments. Threats and punishment throw you and your child into a emotional tug of war that interferes with potty training. Avoid the following emotionally laden phrases:

• "You don't like wearing wet pants, do you" (Said tauntingly)

• "Im not buying you anymore underpants if you can't stay dry."

• "You can't go to the park with your friend if you don't go on the potty right now."

• "That's it. If you have one more accident i am throwing away all your underpants."

Threats and punishment are acts of parent desperation. Understandable, yes, but also counterproductive. Stay calm. Describe the situation. Find solutions. Have faith in your child.