Thursday, December 10, 2009

My Child Is Withholding Poop

Some children get stuck, they know they don't want to poop in the pull up, but are still frightened by the alternative. Unfortunately, getting emotionally stuck can lead to getting physically stuck. Potty training is not fun or easy when your child is constipated. If you've done all the proactive strategies of a healthy high fiber diet with lots of fluids, have physically active playtimes, and you notice your child is not pooping regularly, check with your pediatrician, Do not give your child over the counter laxatives or medicines without your pediatrician's approval.

In a positive potty environment with no medical conditions, your child's body will work as it should. Young children should not depend on laxatives and stool softeners. Use the ABC response to help your child get unstuck.

Pooping is 100 percent your child's domain. You cannot force him. He might even decide your gentle encouragement is excessive. Therefore, acknowledge that he controls when he poops. He must own his potty experience. Withholding situations can be very emotional for the parent and the child. Acknowledge your own feelings of frustration and helplessness with your pediatrician or with a non-suppository recommending potty training buddy.

Balance your response by relinquishing your control over your child's pooping as you help find appropriate ways to exert control in his world. Show your child all the ways he has constructive control by giving him more choices, what he wears, what books he reads, what character are on the bathroom towels. Make your response as invisible as possible. Keep potty experiences positive while you try to create more relaxing conditions, Add poop friendly foods, simplify your child's daily schedule, make potty trips easy and unthreatening, and conclude each day with quiet snuggle time when you're establish an unconditional connection with your child.

Conquer the problem. Express your faith in your child's ability to do what's healthy for his body. Explain that you don't want him to hold in the poop because it make him sick and it hurts his body. With positive potty conditions and your relaxed support, your child can enjoy his body again.

4 comments:

  1. My son is having this problem.

    It is very, very frustrating. Last night, I almost broke down in tears. It definitely makes me feel guilty, even though I don't know what I'm doing wrong.

    He'll be 5 this year. It wasn't always like this. He was potty trained at 3, and then started holding it in at 4. We got him back on track, but then he recently started holding it again.

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  3. Hi emilia, sorry to hear that and, whats you child's diet like.

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  4. It's been two years since my last comment here, and I am happy to announce that my son now uses the bathroom on his own. He still has fears regarding the bathroom and that it may "hurt," but after visiting the doctor and giving stool softeners and switching up his diet, things have gotten much, much better.

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